Your Silent Voice of Experience

"I can't wait!" she exclaimed over the phone. The anticipation in her voice was evident as we scheduled a time to meet and discuss her new fund raising project. This client had a gigantic goal. She also needed lots of information in order to begin.

It was her first attempt at charitable fund raising. She was also the first client I had coached who had a fund raising goal. However, she was determined, and I was ready.

I had been involved with fund raising for years and had made countless phone calls on behalf of charitable projects. I had written grants and worked with many community groups and committees.

Although I had worn various "hats", I would spend most of my time doing what I was best at-speaking to potential contributors face to face. Now I sensed that this person's strength would also be face-to-face contact. This startled me at first, and I thought, "How in the world would I know that?"

Then it dawned on me; something more had been happening all these years that I had not once stopped to consider. I could share what had worked, had not worked, and what might work depending on the motive and personality of the potential supporter. I could also recognize a particular passion for working directly with people.

I had not simply been doing volunteer work. I now know that I was creating a contribution of another kind-experience. I could not give all the answers, but I had some good "clues." It was the right time to share them.

All of us have had valuable life experiences. Have you traveled or had a hobby? Have you been a student, a teacher, a parent, a project leader, an employer, or an employee? Have you worked with animals, people, autos, planes, trains, or teams?

The possibilities are endless. No one has experienced life exactly as you have. You are unique, and your contributions will be unique.

The voice of our experience is usually silent. It does not remind us that we are soaking up life's lessons as we take the kids to school, talk on the phone, visit our friends, drive through the mountains, or walk along the beach.

However, it will speak when the time is right. It will guide us-with the right words-in offering our contributions.

We need not try to be perfect; we will not make it that far in this world. However, if we make the best contributions we are capable of making, life will give its best back to us.

© Copyright 2005 by Steve Brunkhorst. Steve is a professional life success coach, motivational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular mini-zine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com

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